Grief and the Other Side

     Recovering from grief should be taken as a multi layered approach. I lived for almost thirty years in insufferable grief. I could not enjoy my friends and family. I burdened them with my constant reminders of her. I had the chance many times to take my sister into my heart after I lost her. With each passing year the grief grew stronger instead of healing because I did not feel as if I deserved to have her with me while she was on the other side. She can be in both places because she is not bound by conventional laws of time and space. All people who have died can do this. They can be in more places than one.

      Hell is what you make of your life on earth. If you are in a negative energy stream when you die you will often stay in something like your lifestyle after you have passed on. For instance if you yell at others, you will receive the same treatment after you have died until you understand this and move to a clearer level. The problem is, it is much easier to recieve lessons like this while on earth than on the other side. So while we are bound by flesh, we are given clearer opportunities to make changes to our Karma. If you kill other people simply because you want to and not because of war or self defense, you will not nessesarily be killed in another life but you will keep killing until you are caught and killed. On the other side, you will be haunted by the fact that you did something wrong but the hatred you feel will only cause frightening images to surround you. That is what hell is. These beings often feel so confused that when they visit multiple realities they bring their fear with them to the reality that is most comfortable to them. They often visit earth in our time and space at the exact place where they commited crimes or atrocities. They are afraid because they do not know where they are and there are images of what they did being committed toward them. Victims of crime can sometimes be caught in these cycles but it is usually the perpetrator. This is something few people know and it is important to remember that this profound forgetting is what causes haunting and ghosts. There are other reasons as well and we will talk about this another time. 

     My sister was constantly contacting me to ask me to take her into my heart. Because I was a victim of gaslighting abuse and did not even understand I was being abused I had blocked my heart to her. We will talk at length about gaslighting abuse another time. My sister never gave up on me, just like my family here on earth and my family and relatives on the other side. I can see them all now. As I am reminded of each one I take them into my heart. Because my sister was like a twin to me the loss was incalculably devastating for me. We had our own language, we read each other's minds, we loved each other with no boundaries. I loved her more than anyone else. When she died I could not love anyone else completely except my children. Taking the loved one who passed on into your heart is the best thing you can do for them, never mind yourself. It helps you both to accept the percieved separation and to understand that you are still together. 

     The profound forgetting that I experienced is the same for all of you. No matter if it was the same in a big way or a small way the message is the same. You are responsible for creating the life you want. Remind yourself to keep the company that elevates you. Your actions should be ones you would be proud of. Do not lie to pretend you are something you are not or to cover up for mistakes and bad actions. Speak only words that elevate your sense of being. If you cannot do this then look at your life and ask yourself why not? I was afraid to ask myself that important question. That is why I spent 42 years in the darkness. Because when I stepped my foot in the dark side and spoke with the enemy I blocked myself from the knowing that should have guided me in the right direction throughout life. I said I wanted to know why I was here but I would not read the very words that could have given me that informaiton.

     I am now realizing that we all play a role in this giant theatre of life. There are heros and there are villains. There are victims and there are those who persevere.  All of them play a part in the play.Though we all should strive to be heros there is no Godly judgement on the villains. There must be courts of law to work to keep those who comit crimes in check. We will talk about that another time. 

Peace to all of you Dear Ones,

Miss Diana

Copyrite Diana Peate Semlear